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For The Summers Stuck At Home

A lot of use can’t wait for the summer to come. Warmer weather, vacations, the beach; the season is made for relaxing and enjoying yourself…but for the kids, the teens, and the young adults out of school for the summer, they’re anything but relaxed. If you have a loving home and beautiful family to experience your freed up time with, it can be amazing, but for a family that’sw abusive, physically and emotionally…you’re not only miserable but you’re trapped.

You try doing everything you can to get out of the house, hang out with as many friends as you possibly can, despite how broke you are, and fill up your time any way that you can….but at the end of the night, you have to eventually go home. You’re uncomfortable and not happy, worst of all you’re scared, and you start to see pictures of the people you care about with their loving families and the pain feels twice as bad.

You can’t change your family, not really anyway, but you have the chance to change your experiences. Remember, in those dark times, when you’re feeling lost and worthless, when you’ve seen the last happy family picture you can possibly stand…always sit back and remember, you’re not alone. We’re here for you, we have been, and we always will be. No matter what time of day, even if we’re asleep and you can solely read blogs and Nicolette’s book “One”, we’re here, and we’ll do everything we can for you, as soon as we can.

You’re not alone. Your family might not be the ones to comfort you when you’re lost and down, but somebody will always understand you, be compassionate, and will relate to you like you never thought you could relate to somebody before. You have your own “family” no matter what you think.

No Socioeconomic Boundaries

I recently wrote on my personal blog and will elaborate here, some things, like emotional disorders, have no socioeconomic boundaries…like Child Abuse, you cannot look at the stats of the quality of someone’s life and conclude whether they struggle and face either of these problems.

As shown in the statistics provided by Childhelp.org, we can conclude that the amount of child abuse survivors facing mental illness is exponentially high compared with most young adults of the same age. The major misconception with mental illness is that we feel someone who is struggling a particular day can tell you exactly what’s wrong, so you can try to fix it, some days your depression and/or anxiety get the best of you and you have no idea why. You hate that woke up, you don’t want to move from bed, you can’t imagine studying, or showing your face at work, you feel numb all over, and a type of cold loneliness, even with someone who loves you unconditionally…today you’ve convinced yourself they don’t…and the worst part of it all, is that you have no idea how to fix it or if you can. The pain can get so bad that is physically hurts to be awake, or sober in a sense, but even when the only thing in the world that you want to do is sleep, you lay there and cry, until you’ve emotionally and physically exhausted yourself to sleep for at least twenty minutes.

It’s not pretty, it’s certainly somebody dealing with the disorders would choose if they had a choice at all, but unfortunately, mental illness is not a choice. It has been romanticized and molded into this thing others assume people decide to pick up one day, like a hobby…but if you truly face these, you probably dream you could wish it away. Mental disorders are a constant battle, so I’m asking you this…if you love somebody who faces these diseases, don’t expect them to give you an outright answer, don’t expect them to go out of their way to talk to you, don’t assume a smile on their face represents a smile in their heart…but be there for them, ask them if they want to talk about it, if not, do what they’d like to do to help themselves. Always encourage therapy, nothing compares to professional help. Go for a walk with them, volunteer at a humane society with them once a week, have an arts and crafts night…anything that you believe will help their well-being, do it, and you’ll be forever grateful you made that decision.

The Father’s Day Problem

For many, Father’s Day is dedicated to appreciate the dad that’s helped them grow, that’s supported them in every way, and has taught them how they should be treated, for them we hope tomorrow is a day to appreciate what they have, and congratulate them. There are a good amount however, whom are not so lucky. They live in fear of their father. They’ve escaped their father. They’ve never known their father, or they wish that they hadn’t.

 

While tomorrow may bring pain, it can bring quiet reminders of strength and resilience as well. You endured it, but you’re still here. Things aren’t perfect, but you’re trying. While you may not have a loving father, there are those that love you. If today makes you sad, let it happen, you have a right to all of your emotions…but at the end of the day remember how far you’ve come and how much you’ve accomplished, and to do that without a loving and supportive father is nothing short of awe inspiring.

 

You’re not alone, you’ll never be alone, there’s always somebody you’ll be able to find and talk to and while they might not entirely understand, they’ll practice compassion and you’ll be able to feel at ease once more.

 

You are loved, you are important, and you do mean a lot to someone.

Why You Should Wear Blue Tomorrow, April 4th

Tomorrow is Wear Blue Day!

Wear blue tomorrow to support Child Abuse Prevention. Children without a voice, too young to defend themselves, need people like you to wear blue tomorrow. It’s simple, it’s subtle, but it means so much to kids that feel like nobody is on their side. The more people that follow through, the more recognized prevention efforts will be, and the more support we will get to stop child abuse nationwide. Child Abuse is so often looked over, whether it be in homes, foster care or social workers simply not following through with the work they’re meant to do to help…this day provides us with the opportunity to grow numbers representing our cause.

 

Do what you can for a child tomorrow, wear the color blue, or a blue ribbon, and if anybody asks share with them that it’s to support child abuse prevention, the kinds of abuse, and that not all abuse is seen with the naked eye. If you don’t feel comfortable with your knowledge of child abuse, look through our blog, and share your knowledge of our organization focusing on ending abuse and empowering survivors.

 

 

The Past 2 Weeks

Sorry everyone for not posting for over 2 weeks!!! I wasn’t feeling well, or eating well, and functioning was really difficult, therefore I needed a break, but I plan on making up for it!

 

The Difference Makers program I mentioned previously is underway, and our team’s working diligently to present our project effectively and hopefully earn funding to hold the NoLo Movements first out of state event! Our first step in the judging process will be submitted by 5 p.m. on Friday, February 28th, and if selected we’ll continue onto the preliminary challenge on April 4th. We hope our project brings light to the prevalent problem of child abuse in America, and provide healthy and effective ways to give and receive help.

 

A Belated Happy Birthday to our founder Nicolette, who strives to empower survivors and make a difference in the lives of others!!! Your compassion and selflessness shows in all the accomplishments of the No Longer Silenced Movement today, so wish her a happy belated birthday!

 

I will catch up with comments and acknowledging followers support this week, your generosity never goes unnoticed.

 

One quick fact we can take away from today is to remember that child abuse knows no race, gender, or income; it’s across all socioeconomic levels. Many times we judge specific parents, or expect children to appear grungy with burns covering their skin. We must remember to not judge, listen whenever possible, and be trustworthy. If a child can trust you, they’ll be honest with you, and you can help them to break their silence.