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If You Ever Need Someone To Talk To

Since it’s a Friday night, I’m going to keep this short and sweet. If you ever need somebody to talk to, never feel bad about reaching out. We’re here to support you. We’re here to help you. No matter who you are. No matter what you’re going through, don’t ever think you’re alone.

No tragedy is the same, no bad childhood can be compared, and nobody can really say they understand your depression and anxiety exactly as is…while all that is true, we still can support each other. We can lend a listening ear, when it feels like you’re world is falling apart. When you feel so unloved, getting out of bed is too difficult to bear, read some posts and remind yourself, that there are people out there…people you’ve never met, who want you to know how special you are, and how much you are not alone, even though it may feel that way.

You get this life, and you’re handed a deck of cards, and sometimes, no matter how great of a person you are, you’re deck can and will royally suck…and what’s worse is the people who put themselves above all will get the most incredible and unfair deck, and it will make you feel worse, it’ll make you want to give up…but that’s when you need to try harder. No matter what you’re experiencing, I promise, there’s somebody out there that understands how you feel. Don’t give up on yourself. never ever give up on yourself.

Regardless of how you feel in this moment, remember all of this, and make your life the most beautiful comeback story anyone has ever seen.

Day 13, 14, & 15 of the 21 Day Survivor Challenge

Day 13- What book has inspired you and made a positive impact on your life and why?

Day 14- Has there been a fictional survivor (from any experience, not necessarily a fictional child abuse story) that has helped you to heal, or that is a “fictional role model” to you?

Day 15- Write a letter, not one to send, to your abuser, what have you always wanted to say to them? What do you think you could say that will help you to get closure?

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Day 7, 8, & 9 of the 21 Day Challenge

Now that you’re getting into the flow of the daily writing challenge, I hope you’re started to feel a positive impact from reflection, even though your past can be dark. Remember the darkness from your past, will help you find the light in your life. Keep working on healing, and always be in the pursuit of happiness.

Tomorrow starts day 7 of the challenge, so here’s the challenges for the next 3 days!

Day 7- What is your greatest fear, in terms of child abuse, that you have today?

Day 8- What is your greatest dream pertaining to child abuse?

Day 9- In what ways do you currently, or eventually hope to, work towards ending child abuse, or to better the lives of survivors?

These questions can get personal, so if you’d like you can journal the answers down…also if you’d like to share we always love to hear what you have to say!

Wear Tragedies Like Armor

work hard     While everybody has experienced at least one form of tragedy, none of us experience the same tragedy. Everyone who was abused as a child has their own story, feels their own way, copes their own way, and experiences pain in their own way.

Your story can seem so similar to the person next to you, and you can tell them you understand, but unless you’re them, you can’t assume you understand exactly what it is that they’re going through.

One thing, every child abuse survivor shares, is the need to cope, the need to not just survive, but the ability to thrive. You cannot get back the childhood that’s robbed from you, that every survivor shares too, but you can live your life in such a way, that you love it enough to make up for it. Whatever you wanted to do as a child, a sport, play an instrument, get singing lessons, dance, learn to cook or sew…all of that you can still do, and you will have yourself to thank for it. If you use your pain as motivation, and go after the dream career you want, and experience all of the hobbies that so many kids are blessed to have, you’ll feel a sense of fulfillment and love for yourself, that is so much greater than your pain. Passion is powerful, and there’s nothing it can’t change. If you can survive abuse, there’s nothing you can’t do, no age that’s too old, and no difficult task that you can’t accomplish.

You do have, within you, the ability to overcome anything, and just because you were unable to experience something in your youth, doesn’t mean you don’t deserve that chance now. Try all of the hobbies you’ve ever wanted to try, and go after your dream job like you need it as bad as food and water. Never let your past weigh you down, the darker your past, the stronger you are, and the greater the person that you’re capable of being.

Good Things Take Time

Sorry for the wait, but I’m back to blogging again. I had a busy couple of weeks, and I realized it’s okay to take some time to get it together, and I wish more people saw it that way.

This past year, I worked at a Charter School, and if you’ve ever seen a faulty education system, this one would top that. Kids come from many different walks of life. Some with bad homes, a bad past, others simply find learning a real challenge. Working there, I witnessed every type of kid struggle, and the real culprit, were the adults that surrounded them.

Many kids yelled at me, swore under their breathe, aggressively hit desks…and they got away with it so nobody had to deal with them. They couldn’t figure out why 1/8 was smaller than 8/1, time and time again, but we moved on in class so nobody had to deal with them. A mother hated me, because I ensured her kid worked hard in order to get credit, and tried to get me fired, because it was easier to pass him so nobody had to take the time to educate them.

Children are the future, if we fail them now, they’ll give up on the beautiful experience that is learning.

If we continue to pass children, to get them by, they won’t learn, and they WILL give up on school, and they WILL give up on themselves. We have to start caring about these kids learning, no matter how difficult it may be.

Every child deserves a quality education and a future. If we teach them how to learn, then they’ll find a passion and make it happen for themselves. If we ignore the idea of encouraging their dreams…they’ll look for love in all the wrong places…drugs, teenage pregnancy, it’s not just an epidemic from nothing…it’s the kids nobody gave a chance to, nobody believed in, nobody encouraged….because if you’re that role model, that child will be resilient.

“Confront the d…

“Confront the dark parts of yourself, and work to banish them with illumination and forgiveness. Your willingness to wrestle with your demons will cause your angels to sing. Use the pain as fuel, as a reminder of your strength.”

-August Wilson

We can’t erase our past, no matter how much we try. We’ve all experienced pain, some more than others, and we will forever carry that with us. What we do have the chance to decide is if our past will be what weighs us down and holds us back…or if it will be the fire behind our motivation. It’s hard to have experiences that our so painful that we want to give up on ourselves, because these things have discouraged us so much…but the empowerment we receive by letting it drive us, and use it to wake up everyday and work hard, to make our lives the light at the end of the tunnel, and ensure this pain doesn’t occur to others, is immeasurable. Never let pain define you, because it could be what makes your life incredible, and can be the one thing that makes you the person that helps others. Wisdom from experience is one of the strongest characteristics we can have, and there’s nothing you cannot overcome.

“In the United …

“In the United States today, there is a pervasive tendency to treat children as adults, and adults as children. The options of children are thus steadily expanded, while those of adults are progressively constricted. The result is unruly children and childish adults.”

-Thomas Szasz

Every Child deserves to have a childhood. When a child is abused, they’re robbed of that chance. Every child is innocent, and should be careless, and have fun, have an imagination, and dream like a kid is supposed to. We don’t realize that every action we display to a child has an affect on how they’ll grow. The most misbehaved of children, are the ones who need love the most, not the most punishment, and then they will grow into loving and caring adults. Love, motivate, and inspire your children and you’ll be forever grateful of the beauty they’ll give off to the world. They won’t be perfect, but that’s okay, because they’re children. Never forget to let them enjoy being children.

Speaking Up

No child should ever have to fear going home, making a mistake, or worry about what will happen to them if they simply ‘get in the way’. The reality of it is, child abuse happens more often than we think. Many have been victims of physical, mental, or emotional abuse that they carry with them for the rest of their lives. Abuse has a lasting impact, that many survivors of abuse can never shake. In fact, according to childhelp.org, 80% of all victims of child abuse suffer from at least 1 psychological disorders. Psychological and Emotional disorders affect the way we think, function, and go about each day. It’s scary to admit that the people who are meant to nurture you have hurt you, but reporting abuse is a priority…if you suspect abuse, say something, while keeping quiet might seem easier for you, a simple phone call can save someone from having an anxiety disorder or depression, that will make their lives much more difficult. You could save a persons life by simply taking the time to report suspected abuse. If you, yourself are a victim to abuse, remember you’re not alone, you’re never alone, and it’s never your fault. Everybody deserves to feel safe and comfortablein their own home.

 

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