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Empowering Child Abuse Survivors and Promoting Awareness

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Top Seven Reasons To Help Out NOLO

Volunteering and Fundraising is a beautiful thing. Those who are helped are forever grateful, no matter what form of help is received, it improves their overall well being…and for the volunteer, the positive impact knows no bounds.

“The best way to find yourself is to lose yourself in the service of others” -Gandhi

1) While you may feel down, it is important to feel self-worth, which is achieved through volunteering. Benefiting those in need is a remarkable experience, and will impact every aspect of your life. There is a full circle affect in life, while one person is helped for one reason, it benefits every area of a community, each individual at a time.

2) While Child Abuse is an underrated crime as is, finding those to care for adult survivors is rare. Being there for the ones who feel they’ve been forgotten might be the motivation they need to keep trying.

3) Fundraising can be done anywhere. It can be incredibly frustrating reaching out for money, especially since times aren’t easy, but even a simple dollar from each of your facebook friends, or followers on other social media outlets, can and will add up quickly, reaching astronomical goals.

4) Volunteering is a humbling experience. We all have our problems, some worse than others, but even if our past is worse than the person we’re helping, we’ve made it through that rough patch already. Helping a stranger, acquaintance, or friend through this same turmoil will remind you to appreciate the journey you’ve made it through so far.

5) While these can be directed to any child abuse organization, volunteering at NOLO is a very personal experience. Nicolette is working on growing the organization everyday, and is open to hearing ideas that will work towards benefiting survivors of abuse.

6) Helping out can be as flexible as you want it to be! While I love working alongside Nicolette, and doing what I can to spread her message…we’ve never actually met. Everything she’s discussed with me, and that I worked on, has been done with her being in Illinois, now Texas, and me being in Massachusetts. With advances in technology, there’s really no telling the simple and convenient ways you can help.

7) Raising Awareness is Vital, and can also be done telecommuting. Not enough people take Child abuse seriously, raising awareness to the growing problem, and its consequences. It’s the simplest of all parts of volunteering, and dedicating your time to a cause, but it can truthfully make all the difference.

“We make a living by what we get, we make a life by what we give” -Winston ChurchillVolunteer-Page

Day 7, 8, & 9 of the 21 Day Challenge

Now that you’re getting into the flow of the daily writing challenge, I hope you’re started to feel a positive impact from reflection, even though your past can be dark. Remember the darkness from your past, will help you find the light in your life. Keep working on healing, and always be in the pursuit of happiness.

Tomorrow starts day 7 of the challenge, so here’s the challenges for the next 3 days!

Day 7- What is your greatest fear, in terms of child abuse, that you have today?

Day 8- What is your greatest dream pertaining to child abuse?

Day 9- In what ways do you currently, or eventually hope to, work towards ending child abuse, or to better the lives of survivors?

These questions can get personal, so if you’d like you can journal the answers down…also if you’d like to share we always love to hear what you have to say!

Good Things Take Time

Sorry for the wait, but I’m back to blogging again. I had a busy couple of weeks, and I realized it’s okay to take some time to get it together, and I wish more people saw it that way.

This past year, I worked at a Charter School, and if you’ve ever seen a faulty education system, this one would top that. Kids come from many different walks of life. Some with bad homes, a bad past, others simply find learning a real challenge. Working there, I witnessed every type of kid struggle, and the real culprit, were the adults that surrounded them.

Many kids yelled at me, swore under their breathe, aggressively hit desks…and they got away with it so nobody had to deal with them. They couldn’t figure out why 1/8 was smaller than 8/1, time and time again, but we moved on in class so nobody had to deal with them. A mother hated me, because I ensured her kid worked hard in order to get credit, and tried to get me fired, because it was easier to pass him so nobody had to take the time to educate them.

Children are the future, if we fail them now, they’ll give up on the beautiful experience that is learning.

If we continue to pass children, to get them by, they won’t learn, and they WILL give up on school, and they WILL give up on themselves. We have to start caring about these kids learning, no matter how difficult it may be.

Every child deserves a quality education and a future. If we teach them how to learn, then they’ll find a passion and make it happen for themselves. If we ignore the idea of encouraging their dreams…they’ll look for love in all the wrong places…drugs, teenage pregnancy, it’s not just an epidemic from nothing…it’s the kids nobody gave a chance to, nobody believed in, nobody encouraged….because if you’re that role model, that child will be resilient.

Change Is Always Possible

While we can’t change events that happened to us in our childhood, that doesn’t mean we can’t prevent it from happening in the fist place. This doesn’t mean we cannot get Justice for how we were treated. If you were abused, and never spoke up about it, that doesn’t make you any less of a person…that doesn’t make you anything that might cross through your mind as you live in regret. While we can’t erase or change the past we can report the crimes done to us, and show others to do the same for themselves. Be the person that you needed when you were a child, scared and alone. Be the person that would make you want to free yourself from the pain that others bring to you. Remember, always, that you’ve done nothing wrong…and that speaking up is very difficult. Keep in mind that others may have had different advantages than you’ve been given. Don’t knock yourself down for something you haven’t done yet, make it happen today.

 

It’s hard to not dwell on things we might’ve been able to done but even knowing that…we need to be able to realize that as a child, we shouldn’t have had to worry about these things. Reward your past, current, and future self by speaking up about what had happened to you and inspire other generations to realize they can do the same for themselves, they can help themselves when nobody else would, because they’re never truly alone. There’s always people to share stories, pain, and a past with; that you can relate to, and that will make you feel at home, but the only way you’ll find these people is by talking about. You will feel liberated when your’e honest with yourself and the world and there’s no greater gift than inspiring positive change in others lives.

“You may never …

“You may never know what results come of your action, but if you do nothing there will be no result”

-Mahatma Gandhi

“Give light, and the darkness will disappear of itself.”

-Desiderius Erasmus

Breaking silence about abuse is difficult, but no positive change will come from holding it in. If it’s happened, it’s worth reporting, it’s worth your voice and story, and it’s worth the good that can come from your experiences by sharing them with others, potentially helping one or many strangers, and inspiring them to use their voice.

 

Shining light on your first steps to stopping your abuse can disintegrate pain, and the more people you help, the more the light will outshine the dark.