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The Rare but Potentially Fatal Abuse Nobody Cares About

I don’t know if you heard the story, but last year Boston Children’s Hospital suffered a lot of backlash after flagging a case as medical child abuse, which would result in the state taking the child away. Last year, I read a post that Boston Children’s wrote addressing the issue, and the comments were flooded with harsh negativity. People said they were awful, cruel, and despicable doctors trying to rip a child away from their parents.

Is that what people think? Do people automatically assume the parents have done no harm, and that the person taking their child away from their abusive custody is cruel? The case was difficult because medical child abuse is probably the easiest to cover up, and it is the least looked for abuse in children.

The case all started when Justina Pelletier, a 14 year old girl, was brought in by her parents to Boston for the treatment of mitochondrial disease. Mitochondrial disease, is not very common, it’s symptoms are not very unique, and it is potentially fatal if left untreated. The problem wasn’t only that it’s difficult to diagnose, but no formal test was done, called the “hallmark of mitochondrial disorders” by the diagnosing Doctor from Tufts Mark Korson. Besides the sketchy lack of tests and research done into her symptoms, mitochondrial disease is known as the go-to disease to medical child abusers.

For not having a clear and confirmed diagnosis, it’s important to note that prior to this, she already faced extreme surgeries. The 14 year old, never tested for a disease, already had a permanent port surgically implanted into her stomach to flush out her digestive system, a common problem of those suffering child medical abuse. Many were upset about the stance Boston Children’s took on the childs case, including the original diagnostician, saying they’re extremely intrusive.

They pulled the child away from her parents, the accused abusers, and prevented contact from them. What may seem extreme to the outside, how would you feel if it were a confirmed medical abuse case? You’d be praising the doctors for stepping in and insuring the safety of that child, while still working to get her well.

All abuse is important, and any suspicions should always be reported. Nothing is more painful than a child stuck in an abusive home.

Day 10, 11, and 12 of the 21 Day Challenge

Congratulations, you’re half way through!

Day 10- Who was your ultimate role model as a child and why?

Day 11- Does your role model from your childhood still inspire you today, and has your reasoning for that changed?

Day 12- What made you realize you finally needed to take steps towards recovery?

I hope you’re enjoying the questions, and answering them as if you’re the only one that’ll ever read it, in order to make it more effective. Don’t forget, feel free to keep your answers to yourself but if you’d like to share via your own blog ENTER THE TAG 21 day survivor challenge

Thanks for reading!

Day 7, 8, & 9 of the 21 Day Challenge

Now that you’re getting into the flow of the daily writing challenge, I hope you’re started to feel a positive impact from reflection, even though your past can be dark. Remember the darkness from your past, will help you find the light in your life. Keep working on healing, and always be in the pursuit of happiness.

Tomorrow starts day 7 of the challenge, so here’s the challenges for the next 3 days!

Day 7- What is your greatest fear, in terms of child abuse, that you have today?

Day 8- What is your greatest dream pertaining to child abuse?

Day 9- In what ways do you currently, or eventually hope to, work towards ending child abuse, or to better the lives of survivors?

These questions can get personal, so if you’d like you can journal the answers down…also if you’d like to share we always love to hear what you have to say!

21 Days to Build A Habit

I follow a lot of different Nike accounts via instagram, and since the beginning of January they promoted the 21 days to build a habit notion. While, scientifically speaking there might not be indefinite evidence to support the claim, it’s safe to say if you do something everyday, for 3 weeks in a row, you will make a habit of it…good or bad.

From this I wanted to build a 21 day child abuse survivor challenge, promoting healing and seeing how you’ve grown in a positive way, after getting away from your abuse. While we all deal with things differently, seeing the light at the end of the tunnel helps everyone to l ook past their darkest days. For this challenge, I’m going to give the challenges three days at a time, all involving something you need to write down.

Here’s your first three days:

Day One – Write about a bond you were able to form that came from being a survivor

Day Two- What is a positive trait you developed from being a survivor

Day Three- What is a weakness/struggle that you want to work on that you developed from abuse, and how has it already improved compared to what it was.

Keeping looking out for the next 3 day set of the survivor challenge!

Moore Minutes: learning about perfectionism, struggles, beauty, and being set free

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One      As many of you know, in a recent post we addressed child abuse survivors and asked them to tell us what has been the most vital steps in recovering from abuse. What many of you might not be aware of, is the founder of the No Longer Silenced Movement, Nicolette Winn, recently self-published her first in a series of books, aiding child abuse survivors, too live fulfilling and empowering lives after their abuse.

This in no way is saying that anyone forgets their abuse, or miraculously forgets about it one day, and the pain ceases to exist…that doesn’t happen. The weight of tragedy and pain, stays with us for the rest of our lives, but it doesn’t mean that we have to let us destroy us.

This book is available on amazon, I’ll attach the link for your convenience, http://www.amazon.com/dp/B00S75J4F2 .

The book is dedicated to Winn’s younger brother, now 7, in hopes that one day they can build a loving sister-brother bond. Throughout writing the novel, our founder was threatened by both her step mother, and mother, yet she somehow found a way to gain the courage to go through with it anyway, and we couldn’t be more proud!

The book, as our post, is directed to finding ways to encourage survivors of abuse. While some might be stuck or trapped in a way that they cannot reveal the contents of the book, the cover is a way to mask what the book may be about. The book is a way to let survivors know, you’re certainly not alone. Everyone’s story is different but together, we can get through anything.

If anyone you know could use the book, recommend it, share it, let people know the contents are out there, and I hope it helps some of you heal, or someone you love recover.

The Father’s Day Problem

For many, Father’s Day is dedicated to appreciate the dad that’s helped them grow, that’s supported them in every way, and has taught them how they should be treated, for them we hope tomorrow is a day to appreciate what they have, and congratulate them. There are a good amount however, whom are not so lucky. They live in fear of their father. They’ve escaped their father. They’ve never known their father, or they wish that they hadn’t.

 

While tomorrow may bring pain, it can bring quiet reminders of strength and resilience as well. You endured it, but you’re still here. Things aren’t perfect, but you’re trying. While you may not have a loving father, there are those that love you. If today makes you sad, let it happen, you have a right to all of your emotions…but at the end of the day remember how far you’ve come and how much you’ve accomplished, and to do that without a loving and supportive father is nothing short of awe inspiring.

 

You’re not alone, you’ll never be alone, there’s always somebody you’ll be able to find and talk to and while they might not entirely understand, they’ll practice compassion and you’ll be able to feel at ease once more.

 

You are loved, you are important, and you do mean a lot to someone.

“You may never …

“You may never know what results come of your action, but if you do nothing there will be no result”

-Mahatma Gandhi

“Give light, and the darkness will disappear of itself.”

-Desiderius Erasmus

Breaking silence about abuse is difficult, but no positive change will come from holding it in. If it’s happened, it’s worth reporting, it’s worth your voice and story, and it’s worth the good that can come from your experiences by sharing them with others, potentially helping one or many strangers, and inspiring them to use their voice.

 

Shining light on your first steps to stopping your abuse can disintegrate pain, and the more people you help, the more the light will outshine the dark.

Speaking Up

No child should ever have to fear going home, making a mistake, or worry about what will happen to them if they simply ‘get in the way’. The reality of it is, child abuse happens more often than we think. Many have been victims of physical, mental, or emotional abuse that they carry with them for the rest of their lives. Abuse has a lasting impact, that many survivors of abuse can never shake. In fact, according to childhelp.org, 80% of all victims of child abuse suffer from at least 1 psychological disorders. Psychological and Emotional disorders affect the way we think, function, and go about each day. It’s scary to admit that the people who are meant to nurture you have hurt you, but reporting abuse is a priority…if you suspect abuse, say something, while keeping quiet might seem easier for you, a simple phone call can save someone from having an anxiety disorder or depression, that will make their lives much more difficult. You could save a persons life by simply taking the time to report suspected abuse. If you, yourself are a victim to abuse, remember you’re not alone, you’re never alone, and it’s never your fault. Everybody deserves to feel safe and comfortablein their own home.

 

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