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Empowering Child Abuse Survivors and Promoting Awareness

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Not Just Survivors

As a survivor, you can change the world. You can motivate people again and again, and encourage them to do good with their lives. Survivors can do phenomenal work, but that’s not enough for the World. It cannot just be survivors who care. It cannot just be loved ones of victims. We need all the help we can get, including people outside of the tragedy that is Child Abuse.

According to statistics provided by childhelp.org, 4-7 children die each day to child abuse. While all child deaths are tragic, we hear about children dying in hot cars, averaging a few dozen a year, when child abuse loses 1,460-2,555 a year, yet they never make national news. We need to care more, and we cannot do it alone

The Art of Parenting

A person I know posted something I found interesting today.

 

She vented to twitter that “If you DO NOT have a child you have no right to tell a parent how to do their job”. While that’s true to some extent, it raises many concerns.

First of all, if you’re truly doing your best and somebody tries to tell you to do something different when your child is happy, healthy, and loved…then obviously they’re pushing their opinion where they shouldn’t…but in other cases I’m not so sure.

I’ve seen this problem come up many times over the past year…mainly from single parents who are probably over-worked and stressed and from people who choose to not have their children vaccinated.

 

While I understand many parents have different reasons for doing things, where do we draw the line? It’s almost as if children are being treated more and more like property (obviously a select few parents)…and this isn’t to attack anyone by any means but I feel everything should be done in best interest of the child…not by what you believe in…because isn’t that what creates a healthy happy life?

 

I responded to the girl who posted this about people who’ve studied adolescent development intensely, as well as those that work with and are passionate about children’s well being, might have some concerns. Where do we begin to say medical choices based on what you believe in rather than your child’s health is a form of abuse? I’m not sure about every child abuse law nationwide, but Massachusetts has a strict policy against medical neglect. The medical side is of course only once instance where the problem of not being invasive towards someones parenting comes up, but I think it’s one of the most common lately.

 

I feel that if you have a child, you should not be claiming them as your property but rather, be protective, do what they need to strive and grow, and help them find their way in the world.

Self-Blame & Abuse

Contemplating the moral issues of seeing something you know is wrong being done and conflicted of what to do is typical, and the right thing to do is to always make things right. Seeing somebody being abused and doing nothing about it, is in fact, a type of abuse. Doing nothing is abuse because it causes emotional turmoil to victims. When victims know they’re being abused, and know people have witnessed their abuse and have done nothing, it turns into self-blame. Never let victims feel that they’re guilty, and make victims know their abusers are abusers. When abuse happens in the public eye, and the abuser gets away with it, they’ll eventually believe they’re not abusers, because society doing nothing will teach them what they’re doing is okay.

Help those who can’t help themselves.