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Day 10, 11, and 12 of the 21 Day Challenge

Congratulations, you’re half way through!

Day 10- Who was your ultimate role model as a child and why?

Day 11- Does your role model from your childhood still inspire you today, and has your reasoning for that changed?

Day 12- What made you realize you finally needed to take steps towards recovery?

I hope you’re enjoying the questions, and answering them as if you’re the only one that’ll ever read it, in order to make it more effective. Don’t forget, feel free to keep your answers to yourself but if you’d like to share via your own blog ENTER THE TAG 21 day survivor challenge

Thanks for reading!

Day 7, 8, & 9 of the 21 Day Challenge

Now that you’re getting into the flow of the daily writing challenge, I hope you’re started to feel a positive impact from reflection, even though your past can be dark. Remember the darkness from your past, will help you find the light in your life. Keep working on healing, and always be in the pursuit of happiness.

Tomorrow starts day 7 of the challenge, so here’s the challenges for the next 3 days!

Day 7- What is your greatest fear, in terms of child abuse, that you have today?

Day 8- What is your greatest dream pertaining to child abuse?

Day 9- In what ways do you currently, or eventually hope to, work towards ending child abuse, or to better the lives of survivors?

These questions can get personal, so if you’d like you can journal the answers down…also if you’d like to share we always love to hear what you have to say!

Day 4, 5, & 6 of The Survivor 21 Day Challenge

I hope the first three days you’ve felt a little bit more positivity flowing to surpass the lows. Here’s Day 4, 5, and 6. Remember this challenge is for you. It’s to remind you how incredible you are. You’ve gone through something traumatic, something that can easily lead you down a dark path, and even if it did at one point…you’re here now, and that matters. Never stop being proud of yourself.

Day 4: Write one thing you wish you could change about your past, preferably your youth, and think of something you can do to actually work towards that change now.

Day 5: What is the best experience you’ve had since you realized that you’re a survivor?

Day 6: What would you tell someone experiencing the abuse you’ve already endured?

Thank you for your efforts in expressing yourself in such a personal way!

21 Days to Build A Habit

I follow a lot of different Nike accounts via instagram, and since the beginning of January they promoted the 21 days to build a habit notion. While, scientifically speaking there might not be indefinite evidence to support the claim, it’s safe to say if you do something everyday, for 3 weeks in a row, you will make a habit of it…good or bad.

From this I wanted to build a 21 day child abuse survivor challenge, promoting healing and seeing how you’ve grown in a positive way, after getting away from your abuse. While we all deal with things differently, seeing the light at the end of the tunnel helps everyone to l ook past their darkest days. For this challenge, I’m going to give the challenges three days at a time, all involving something you need to write down.

Here’s your first three days:

Day One – Write about a bond you were able to form that came from being a survivor

Day Two- What is a positive trait you developed from being a survivor

Day Three- What is a weakness/struggle that you want to work on that you developed from abuse, and how has it already improved compared to what it was.

Keeping looking out for the next 3 day set of the survivor challenge!

Moore Minutes: learning about perfectionism, struggles, beauty, and being set free

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One      As many of you know, in a recent post we addressed child abuse survivors and asked them to tell us what has been the most vital steps in recovering from abuse. What many of you might not be aware of, is the founder of the No Longer Silenced Movement, Nicolette Winn, recently self-published her first in a series of books, aiding child abuse survivors, too live fulfilling and empowering lives after their abuse.

This in no way is saying that anyone forgets their abuse, or miraculously forgets about it one day, and the pain ceases to exist…that doesn’t happen. The weight of tragedy and pain, stays with us for the rest of our lives, but it doesn’t mean that we have to let us destroy us.

This book is available on amazon, I’ll attach the link for your convenience, http://www.amazon.com/dp/B00S75J4F2 .

The book is dedicated to Winn’s younger brother, now 7, in hopes that one day they can build a loving sister-brother bond. Throughout writing the novel, our founder was threatened by both her step mother, and mother, yet she somehow found a way to gain the courage to go through with it anyway, and we couldn’t be more proud!

The book, as our post, is directed to finding ways to encourage survivors of abuse. While some might be stuck or trapped in a way that they cannot reveal the contents of the book, the cover is a way to mask what the book may be about. The book is a way to let survivors know, you’re certainly not alone. Everyone’s story is different but together, we can get through anything.

If anyone you know could use the book, recommend it, share it, let people know the contents are out there, and I hope it helps some of you heal, or someone you love recover.

Thank You

This post will be short and sweet. We just wanted to thank everyone who took the time to respond to our previous post!

All of your insights were very helpful, and we truly appreciate all of the support you give us! If you were unable to see our last blog, we reached out to our audience in order to see what helps you or anyone deal with life after abuse. Everybody deals with things differently, so getting a variety of opinions was definitely insightful. If you’d still like to respond, we would love to hear from you!

How To Recover From Abuse

For this post, we want to hear from you. We’ve had an excellent growing support system for the No Longer Silenced Movement, and hope to continue that momentum. The founder, Nicolette for any who may not know, is working on building a program designated to those recovering from abuse. In order to do so, we need to know what works for you.

What works for one, won’t for another, but combined, we can find a recovery path for everyone, and work towards helping survivors of child abuse further.

So, What worked for you?

If you’re currently a survivor of child abuse, we’d love your insights!

What did you do? Did Therapy help? Any books? What did you feel after? What still helps you today? What activity eases your reminders of your past, while still feeling them?

We’d love to hear from you!

Back to School

Kids are back to school…and it might be what they’ve dreaded all summer, but for some, it’s an escape. Even if it’s better than home, it doesn’t mean they’ll comply or work hard, most likely they’ll do the opposite (statistically speaking). If you work in a school, and have started back, make sure you remember this when you’re settling in. What a kid does or says to you, isn’t always a reaction towards you, and reading into their behavior can be what saves them. Being a Teacher is one of the most influential jobs pertaining to a child’s life, and also one of the most unappreciated.

It’s not your job to make sure their home life is good, but when you see the signs by spending the majority of your day with them, you can change their life. It’s extra work, with the potential to make a serious difference. Despite how a child behaves towards you, keep it in the bank of your mind that there’s a reason behind each behavior.

It’s limitless what a teacher can do for a child’s life. The ones who’ve made a difference in mind, I keep with me everyday. Good luck this school year, and remember each day that every action a child does, there’s a motivation behind it. Don’t take it personal, don’t let it stress you or bring you down, it’s not you, but whatever it is, you’ll eventually be able to figure it out and move forward with what you know. Breathe and relax, and the answers will come.

Radiate Positivity

The only way to change the world, is to find positive solutions to move forward. We have to remember that each day. It’s easy to reflect upon and become angered by the fact that people choose to hurt their children in such damaging ways, it’s painful to see that the people children are supposed to depend upon the most, might be their biggest enemies…but being angered by this fact, doesn’t help victims.

Instead we have to keep fighting for people to speak up, for people to defend them, and to provide them with a safe and positive environment every child deserves to grow in. When we’re motivated by the victims, rather than the abusers, it is then that we create change.

It’s in all matters of community service that this is evident. We need to focus on empowerment and protection, whether it’s for abused children like us, or endangered wildlife, to promoting saving the Earth…we need to be driven by solutions, and then we will end the problem.

No Socioeconomic Boundaries

I recently wrote on my personal blog and will elaborate here, some things, like emotional disorders, have no socioeconomic boundaries…like Child Abuse, you cannot look at the stats of the quality of someone’s life and conclude whether they struggle and face either of these problems.

As shown in the statistics provided by Childhelp.org, we can conclude that the amount of child abuse survivors facing mental illness is exponentially high compared with most young adults of the same age. The major misconception with mental illness is that we feel someone who is struggling a particular day can tell you exactly what’s wrong, so you can try to fix it, some days your depression and/or anxiety get the best of you and you have no idea why. You hate that woke up, you don’t want to move from bed, you can’t imagine studying, or showing your face at work, you feel numb all over, and a type of cold loneliness, even with someone who loves you unconditionally…today you’ve convinced yourself they don’t…and the worst part of it all, is that you have no idea how to fix it or if you can. The pain can get so bad that is physically hurts to be awake, or sober in a sense, but even when the only thing in the world that you want to do is sleep, you lay there and cry, until you’ve emotionally and physically exhausted yourself to sleep for at least twenty minutes.

It’s not pretty, it’s certainly somebody dealing with the disorders would choose if they had a choice at all, but unfortunately, mental illness is not a choice. It has been romanticized and molded into this thing others assume people decide to pick up one day, like a hobby…but if you truly face these, you probably dream you could wish it away. Mental disorders are a constant battle, so I’m asking you this…if you love somebody who faces these diseases, don’t expect them to give you an outright answer, don’t expect them to go out of their way to talk to you, don’t assume a smile on their face represents a smile in their heart…but be there for them, ask them if they want to talk about it, if not, do what they’d like to do to help themselves. Always encourage therapy, nothing compares to professional help. Go for a walk with them, volunteer at a humane society with them once a week, have an arts and crafts night…anything that you believe will help their well-being, do it, and you’ll be forever grateful you made that decision.