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Top Seven Reasons To Help Out NOLO

Volunteering and Fundraising is a beautiful thing. Those who are helped are forever grateful, no matter what form of help is received, it improves their overall well being…and for the volunteer, the positive impact knows no bounds.

“The best way to find yourself is to lose yourself in the service of others” -Gandhi

1) While you may feel down, it is important to feel self-worth, which is achieved through volunteering. Benefiting those in need is a remarkable experience, and will impact every aspect of your life. There is a full circle affect in life, while one person is helped for one reason, it benefits every area of a community, each individual at a time.

2) While Child Abuse is an underrated crime as is, finding those to care for adult survivors is rare. Being there for the ones who feel they’ve been forgotten might be the motivation they need to keep trying.

3) Fundraising can be done anywhere. It can be incredibly frustrating reaching out for money, especially since times aren’t easy, but even a simple dollar from each of your facebook friends, or followers on other social media outlets, can and will add up quickly, reaching astronomical goals.

4) Volunteering is a humbling experience. We all have our problems, some worse than others, but even if our past is worse than the person we’re helping, we’ve made it through that rough patch already. Helping a stranger, acquaintance, or friend through this same turmoil will remind you to appreciate the journey you’ve made it through so far.

5) While these can be directed to any child abuse organization, volunteering at NOLO is a very personal experience. Nicolette is working on growing the organization everyday, and is open to hearing ideas that will work towards benefiting survivors of abuse.

6) Helping out can be as flexible as you want it to be! While I love working alongside Nicolette, and doing what I can to spread her message…we’ve never actually met. Everything she’s discussed with me, and that I worked on, has been done with her being in Illinois, now Texas, and me being in Massachusetts. With advances in technology, there’s really no telling the simple and convenient ways you can help.

7) Raising Awareness is Vital, and can also be done telecommuting. Not enough people take Child abuse seriously, raising awareness to the growing problem, and its consequences. It’s the simplest of all parts of volunteering, and dedicating your time to a cause, but it can truthfully make all the difference.

“We make a living by what we get, we make a life by what we give” -Winston ChurchillVolunteer-Page

The Silent Fight In America

Have you ever noticed how many arguments Americans involve themselves in Daily? There’s abortion, race, and the welfare system, oh and immigration, that I see people have everyday. The fight I rarely see? The one about child abuse, advocating for abused children, and foster kids (as a good amount of them come from abusive homes. I’m not saying the people I know advocating against child abuse aren’t doing a good job. Nicolette alone is inspiring people everyday, all while being in graduate school, and a pet owner(which might not seem like a huge commitment, but she treats her dog how I treat mine, and that requires constant attention); but child abuse is one of the few causes that, if you’re not a volunteer or your job doesn’t involve the subject, nobody has an opinion on it.

It’s weird to think how many people have an opinion about every topic, but not this one. It’s as if they don’t see it as a huge deal. If you looking at the statistics in the blogs bio (included by Nicolette via childhelp.org) you see how statistically speaking, those abused are more likely to have a child young, do drugs, and be imprisoned for one reason or another; ironic because those three fall back on everyone’s major problem with the welfare system. Of course there’s many survivors that become empowered by their tragedies, but it’s not easy. It’s hard to overcome abuse in a positive way without support system. When abused children are taken from their homes, they enter foster care…each year, an average of 20,000 kids, age out of foster care, never having a family, this traces back to another argument, about reproduction, but I don’t see anybody jumping forward to adopt the kids who need it most. Is it because they’re no longer babies? Giving a child coming out of a traumatic family home can help them to build this positive atmosphere for themselves, and to never give up, no matter what struggles they face.

Day 7, 8, & 9 of the 21 Day Challenge

Now that you’re getting into the flow of the daily writing challenge, I hope you’re started to feel a positive impact from reflection, even though your past can be dark. Remember the darkness from your past, will help you find the light in your life. Keep working on healing, and always be in the pursuit of happiness.

Tomorrow starts day 7 of the challenge, so here’s the challenges for the next 3 days!

Day 7- What is your greatest fear, in terms of child abuse, that you have today?

Day 8- What is your greatest dream pertaining to child abuse?

Day 9- In what ways do you currently, or eventually hope to, work towards ending child abuse, or to better the lives of survivors?

These questions can get personal, so if you’d like you can journal the answers down…also if you’d like to share we always love to hear what you have to say!

21 Days to Build A Habit

I follow a lot of different Nike accounts via instagram, and since the beginning of January they promoted the 21 days to build a habit notion. While, scientifically speaking there might not be indefinite evidence to support the claim, it’s safe to say if you do something everyday, for 3 weeks in a row, you will make a habit of it…good or bad.

From this I wanted to build a 21 day child abuse survivor challenge, promoting healing and seeing how you’ve grown in a positive way, after getting away from your abuse. While we all deal with things differently, seeing the light at the end of the tunnel helps everyone to l ook past their darkest days. For this challenge, I’m going to give the challenges three days at a time, all involving something you need to write down.

Here’s your first three days:

Day One – Write about a bond you were able to form that came from being a survivor

Day Two- What is a positive trait you developed from being a survivor

Day Three- What is a weakness/struggle that you want to work on that you developed from abuse, and how has it already improved compared to what it was.

Keeping looking out for the next 3 day set of the survivor challenge!

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Thank You

This post will be short and sweet. We just wanted to thank everyone who took the time to respond to our previous post!

All of your insights were very helpful, and we truly appreciate all of the support you give us! If you were unable to see our last blog, we reached out to our audience in order to see what helps you or anyone deal with life after abuse. Everybody deals with things differently, so getting a variety of opinions was definitely insightful. If you’d still like to respond, we would love to hear from you!

How To Recover From Abuse

For this post, we want to hear from you. We’ve had an excellent growing support system for the No Longer Silenced Movement, and hope to continue that momentum. The founder, Nicolette for any who may not know, is working on building a program designated to those recovering from abuse. In order to do so, we need to know what works for you.

What works for one, won’t for another, but combined, we can find a recovery path for everyone, and work towards helping survivors of child abuse further.

So, What worked for you?

If you’re currently a survivor of child abuse, we’d love your insights!

What did you do? Did Therapy help? Any books? What did you feel after? What still helps you today? What activity eases your reminders of your past, while still feeling them?

We’d love to hear from you!

The best philan…

The best philanthropy is constantly in search of the finalities—a search for a cause, an attempt to cure evils at their source.

-John D. Rockefeller

April is Child Abuse Awareness month. Most people that aren’t fighting for this cause don’t know how huge this epidemic actually is. Everybody is busy. Everybody is a student/paraprofessional/athlete/philanthropist, nobody has a bunch of extra free time anymore….but to help a cause so great as making children feel safe with the people that are supposed to love and nurture them is beautiful beyond measure, and takes so little time to at least start.

 

Spread Awareness: Share No Long Silenced Movements blog, or current statistics.

Fund-raise: Buy a box of pinwheels from prevent child abuse america, participate in a walk, donate money to Nolo, there are endless ways to produce funds.

Become More Involved: Educate yourself, volunteer at a nearby organization such as a CASA chapter, and make a difference in a survivors life.

 

There are many ways to help, and everyone is capable of them. There is nothing greater than doing good for a child that will change your life simply by being around you. You can help.

Why You Should Wear Blue Tomorrow, April 4th

Tomorrow is Wear Blue Day!

Wear blue tomorrow to support Child Abuse Prevention. Children without a voice, too young to defend themselves, need people like you to wear blue tomorrow. It’s simple, it’s subtle, but it means so much to kids that feel like nobody is on their side. The more people that follow through, the more recognized prevention efforts will be, and the more support we will get to stop child abuse nationwide. Child Abuse is so often looked over, whether it be in homes, foster care or social workers simply not following through with the work they’re meant to do to help…this day provides us with the opportunity to grow numbers representing our cause.

 

Do what you can for a child tomorrow, wear the color blue, or a blue ribbon, and if anybody asks share with them that it’s to support child abuse prevention, the kinds of abuse, and that not all abuse is seen with the naked eye. If you don’t feel comfortable with your knowledge of child abuse, look through our blog, and share your knowledge of our organization focusing on ending abuse and empowering survivors.

 

 

National Child Abuse Prevention Month; WEAR BLUE

child abuse preventionAs many of you may know, April is National Child Abuse Prevention Month. Keep in mind as you go about your days tomorrow, that with each step you take, you could walk by a child whose alone, neglected, and emotionally broken. They might not be covered in burns or bruises, they could even be dressed in designer clothes, but that doesn’t mean they’re safe from abuse.

April 4th, this Friday, is National Wear Blue Day for Child Abuse Prevention, if you don’t have any blue clothing, a blue ribbon will do!!! Pinwheels are another symbol of Child Abuse Prevention too!

A symbol so simple, can mean so much to survivors who’ve kept their silence. The more people that stand behind the cause of ending the abuse of children, the more victims will reason they’re never alone, and there’s always somebody to turn to.

April 4th is also the day of the Preliminary Difference Makers Challenge where our event “Kicking Out Child Abuse” (a 1 day soccer tournament empowering survivors of abuse, raising awareness and helping with prevention) will be presented. A total of 9 teams will move onto the Finals. Regardless if we win our lose, we’ll wear blue and present our project proudly.