Blaming the Kids

by No Longer Silenced Movement

I’ve worked at a Charter school, predominantly filled with children from learning disabilities to behavioral issues, basically students that require a more personalized learning experience in order to be successful. Countless times I was told by teachers to now care, countless times (as I was a 1 on 1 aide) I was told I should lose my job, and that I’m not right for it. Throughout the school year, I fought this notion.

I resent the fact that students, not typically easily to deal with, are given 1/10 of the work as other students, and regardless of the work they’d pass in, they’d pass. They’d misbehave, and still get by. They’d pass from grade to grade, learning nothing. That was my problem, the student I had, even though it was more difficult, I structured his school work so he would have to learn, which was the point of school in the first place. It was more difficult, and his grades went down because I chose his requirements, and I didn’t want teachers to just pass him. This made the email arguments saying I should be fired start, but at the end of the day, when he presented, legitimately learning, he was proud of himself, and he did exceptional.

In private, the child would talk to me about his home life, and his dream of becoming a graphical engineer. The way the school was structured, he would never be able to accomplish this. With what his family would take into account, he would never learn, and he would fail.

Everybody blames the kid, for being misbehaved, for not trying in school, for not being motivated…but when you look into it, it’s not the kid’s fault. Not encouraging your child to learn, ruins their life, it doesn’t just make school difficult for them, they feel stupid and don’t want to try, because they’re sick of failing, and if they never learn, how will they move forward or fight for their dreams? That’s the problem, they won’t.

We went from people stable to become parents, to anyone having children. If you’re trying to do what’s best for your child, you’re an incredible parent…but too often I’ve seen immature parents, who’ve never had any responsibility, and they don’t become mature and responsible when their child enters the world. Too many times I’ve seen parents, scream at their kids, or bash the other parent to their face. Too many times, I’ve seen children, dropped off to anyone, so their parents could go out. I’ve seen children abused, with social workers that let the parents sit in the room for an interview, that nobody defends…then there’s the ones who get out of their homes, to go into a poorly structured foster home, and so many have aged out of foster care, never too receive the loving parents that they deserve.

The quality of parents have gone down so far, it’s easier for parents not working to afford a child, that a middle class couple, because that’s how our system is structured, and kids are suffering, each and every day…but few do anything, and it’s the child’s life and future, that statistically speaking, will be far more difficult because of it.